I Went on a Show and Talked About the Hardest Thing I've Ever Done
And somehow, I didn't completely fall apart.
I’ve been a writer my whole life. I know how to craft a sentence. I know how to shape a story arc. What I apparently do not know how to do — at least not gracefully — is talk about my own book on camera without feeling like I’m standing in the middle of my own living room in my underwear.
And yet, here we are.
A little while ago, I sat down with Alan Locher on The Locher Room to talk about The Luck We Carry — the book I spent years writing, the one that grew out of grief and journals and a lot of late nights with a fountain pen and absolutely no plan. Alan is a genuinely warm interviewer, which helped. So did the fact that he’d actually read the book, which — if you’ve ever been interviewed by someone who clearly hasn’t — you know is not to be taken for granted.
We talked about Ken. We talked about what it means to move with grief instead of away from it. We talked about writing as survival, not just expression — the idea that some of us don’t process the world until we’ve put it on paper. (If you’re reading this on Substack, I suspect you might know something about that.)
What I didn’t expect was how much the conversation would feel like the book itself — the way the good stuff tends to come out sideways, in the middle of something else, when you’re not bracing for it.
There’s a moment in the interview where Alan asks me about the message Ken left with his hospice grief counselor — the words she held onto for months and delivered to me on a warm August night while I sat in the garden with a glass of cabernet. I still am. Together we still be. We’re still here. We still exist together.
I’ve said those words out loud a hundred times now. And they still land like the first time.
That’s what The Luck We Carry is about, really. Not the loss — though the loss is there, honest and unvarnished. It’s about what remains. What gets carried forward. What love looks like after it changes shape.
Watch the interview below. And if something in it moves you, I hope you’ll consider pre-ordering the book — because the best gift you can give a debut author before launch is proof that someone’s waiting.
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